No Simple Solutions: State Violence and the Sex Trades

I received this statement (reposted below) from my friend Jessica Yee at the Native Youth Sexual Health Network. I am so very excited to see this group forming and speaking out.

This is a critical conversation we need to be having with people who are concerned with juvenile involvement with the sex trades, especially the involvement of young people of colour and youth Aboriginal people.

xxx
Lusty

The Native Youth Sexual Health Network is proud to be a member and contributor of the Collective that has just put out this statement (stay tuned for more statements and work coming from our Collective soon!)

As a collective of radical women and queer people of color and Indigenous people who identify as sex workers, people in the sex trades, people doing what we have to do to survive, and people who have been trafficked into sex work and other forms of labor, we wanted to respond to Rinku Sen’s recent Colorlines blog post The Complexities of Sex Trafficking, and Some Simple Solutions because, for us, there are no simple solutions to the complex circumstances that inform our lives. Simplified responses do not do justice to our lived realities, or to the systemic conditions that inform them. While we appreciate Sen’s distinction between trade and trafficking, unfortunately this distinction is not made within the laws currently being promoted to respond to harms experienced by people in the sex trades. In fact we believe that in all too many cases these laws increase harm to the very people they  intend to help

As young people and adults with experience in the sex trades who are directly impacted by current responses to prostitution and trafficking, we recently came together as an affiliate of INCITE! Women of Color Against Violence to think more deeply about how to respond to the wave of legislation, funding, and conversation about sex work and trafficking in a way that represents our truths and realities. We are deeply rooted in INCITE!’s analysis of state violence as integrally connected to interpersonal violence, and its commitment to community-based solutions to violence that do not rely on law enforcement, which is in and of itself a source of systemic and widespread violence against women and transgender people of color. Indeed, a ground-breaking youth-led participatory research project conducted by the Young Women’s Empowerment Project, to which Sen refers in a comment addressing responses to her piece, found police and social services to be the primary sources of harm experienced by young people with experience in the sex trades.

Like Sen, we oppose and resist any and all forms of violence, including but not limited to: coercion, extortion, violence by police and other law enforcement agents, structural economic, gender- and sexuality-based violence, and racial violence against all people, including people in the sex trades. Such violence also includes the denial of affordable housing, health care, and access to living wage employment. We also challenge those in both the anti-trafficking and sex workers’ rights movements who claim to speak on our behalf, and those who use our lives and experiences to advance their own agendas without recognizing our leadership.

We know that each of our experiences of the sex trades are unique, and there are no one-size fits all solutions. We are members of families and communities struggling to survive and make the best possible choices given the options available to us. For many of us, the truth about the sex trade is somewhere between a completely empowered experience of the sex trade, which requires only decriminalization to eliminate harms, and a completely harmful experience of the sex trade which negatively presumes all of us to be victims in need of “rescue.”

The Safe Harbor Act, along with initiatives like it that Lloyd and others are promoting across the country, are NOT simple or solutions for most of us. First, they don’t stop arrests of young people for prostitution-related offenses, or the police abuses of young people in the sex trades that, including police trading sex in exchange for promises of dropping charges. They also don’t stop arrests of young people in the sex trades that involve “charging up,” i.e. charging young people with weapons or drug-related offenses which may be easier to prove. Second, while they may stop criminal prosecutions of young people for prostitution-related offenses, these laws do not eliminate detention and punishment of young people involved in the sex trades, they just shift young people from the jurisdiction of the criminal courts to family court systems, where they can remain entangled until the age of 21. And, in the end, only a very narrow group of people can benefit from these laws.

For example, in order for the Safe Harbor Act to benefit a young person, they must be under 16 and arrested for the first time and must never have been in family court before.  Young people between the ages of 16-18 continue to be charged in adult court. Even those under 16 who can meet the Act’s criteria must still convince a judge that they are a “victim” of a “severe form of trafficking” – a hurdle that both Sen and Lloyd acknowledge is almost impossible for young girls of color.  This is also a problem because most young people’s stories do not fit into a neat box.  A National Institutes of Justice funded study by researchers at John Jay College in New York City found that only 8% of young people involved in the sex trades in New York City had been forced into prostitution by a “pimp,” and only 10% currently worked with one. The same study found that 16% of girls and 6% of boys trading sex were coerced, but the vast majority of girls (84%) engaged in the sex trades in New York City had never come into contact with a “pimp.” When young people can’t respond to police and prosecutors’ pressure to give up a “pimp” they never had  they get punished  by law enforcement and service providers alike, and find themselves back on the delinquency and detention track.  Even when the Safe Harbor Act (and other laws like it) is found to apply to a young person, they must still follow the rules a family court judge sees fit, which can involve attending a court-mandated program like GEMS, many of which enforce Christianity on participants. Additionally, for young people for whom no such services are available, including LGBTQQ young people and young men in the sex trades, such legislation offers little or no relief whatsoever.

In fact, current ways of thinking about trafficking and the sex trade make LGBTQ youth invisible. The 2007 study Lesbian, Gay, and Transgender Youth: An Epidemic of Homelessness found that, of the estimated 1.6 million homeless young people in the United States, between 20 and 40%, or approximately half a million, identify as LGB or T.  Research also reveals that LGBTQ teens are more likely to remain homeless because they also experience homophobia and transphobia in foster care, shelters, and from service providers. A recent study, Hidden Injustice documented the systemic homophobia and transphobia LGBTQ youth experience in family and juvenile courts and in service provision, and the increased rates and lengths of detention they experience as a result. For these reasons, many LGBTQ homeless youth stay on the streets because they feel safer there.  Once homeless, LGBTQ youth, and particularly LGBTQ youth of color are also at increased risk of profiling and police abuse in the context of “qualify of life” enforcement. They are also likely to become involved in the sex trades and street economies as a means of survival. Yet young men and transgender women, including those who are coerced into the sex trades,  are denied access to programs such as GEMS, remain invisible as “victims” in the eyes of law enforcement, judges, and service providers.   Additionally demands for increased penalties for prostitution-related offenses expose young people, including LGBTQ youth, who work in non-exploitative peer networks, to significant jail time for sharing resources and engaging in practices aimed at increasing safety and survival.  They also drive the entire industry further underground, and the young people we reach further away from help.

As we work to develop a comprehensive statement that centers the voices of Indigenous people, people in the sex trades, and radical women and queer people of color, we call on movements for racial justice, civil rights, reproductive justice, LGBTQQ rights, immigrant justice, and those struggling against racial profiling, police brutality and abuse, criminalization and mass incarceration to develop responses that reflect the complexities of our lives and experiences. Most importantly, there are no simple answers.

- an INCITE! affiliate and collective of radical women  of color, queer people of color, and Indigenous people who identify as people in the sex trades

 

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Edited: April 22nd, 2011

Every Ho I Know Says So: A Resource for Lovers, Partners and Sweeties of Sex Workers

Hi friends,

I just wanted to share this link with you, it’s a video that my friend Jackson and I made over the past six months called

Every Ho I Know Says So: A Resource for Lovers, Partners and Sweeties of Sex Workers


Just in time for December 17, I just want to say a few words about why we came to making this video. This year, we were both struggling with lovers and friends who weren’t able to understand, support or celebrate the work we were doing as sex workers. We saw that our loved ones were trying their best, but there were really very few resources out there for them. For me personally, a significant relationship in my life ended in violence because of my partner’s whorephobia. We set out to interview sex workers on two continents, seeking their wisdom.

Every Ho I Know Says So is a response to the lack of resources for people looking for advice on how to be good to a sex worker. We want to support our lovers to fight stigma against sex workers, especially in intimate relationships. Sex workers themselves have valuable advice and direction to give our partners. With this video, we are saying “We support you in becoming a sex worker-positive and supportive lover and person in the community!!! By continuing to work on your attitudes about our work and educating yourself, you are showing us that you care. We love you!”

Please share it around and if you have any comments, contact me.

xxx
Lusty

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Edited: December 15th, 2010

Open letter to the sex work movement – and our relationship that’s become unhealthy

I have been struggling for a few weeks to finish writing a post about some of my reflections about sex worker politics, community and struggles after attending the Desiree Alliance conference this past summer. (I forget that writing is a process of learning, and that I don’t have to know everything I want to say when I set my fingers to the keyboard. But that’s another post!)

Of course, my powerhouse friend Jessica Yee seems to always go straight to the punch, and in this recent note, she has articulated some of what I have been feeling lately, and much more. I am reposting her letter here, hopefully mine will come soon too.

My open letter to the sex work movement – and our relationship that’s become unhealthy

by Jessica Yee

I wrote this emceeing for the Granny Boots Sex Work Cabaret in Toronto (on September 29) – and on the heels of a victory against the state to give more power to sex workers so police stop arresting and jailing us. I feel like it’s an important time to be honest about where we are at in the movement if we really want to move ahead strongly and actualize true decriminalization across Canada. (which is a very good thing people!) And yes there are lots of expletives but I’m speaking the English language of the colonizer – so I don’t fucking care.

Dear sex work movement/activists/or people who just don’t fucking get it.

I want to talk to you and I want you to try and get what I’m saying here. For real this time.

It seems like our relationship – like many others – has had its ups and downs. You’ve been there for me – I’ve been there for you. And even though I’m no expert on what a healthy relationship even is – I feel like this has become an unhealthy one. And before you interrupt me again to say “hey wait – it’s not ME because I (insert typical derailment/white guilt/detracting excuse)” let me fucking finish this time and listen up.

I’m going to be honest and say right now that I’m EXHAUSTED. You exhaust me a lot and I really wish it were from a great fuck. In this case I actually feel fucked -and not in a good way.

I thought you already knew that I’m not the stoic, polite little mixed-race girl who will let you make sweeping generalizations about the many peoples and communities I belong to that you really have no idea about – even though yes, you know another racialized person. I was almost SURE that it was made clear I do speak the fuck up, pretty much always, and will most definitely act on things like white supremacy and cultural appropriation – that I probably need to remind you again – are in the actual sex work movement we are in – not just in the larger abstract systems. True decriminalization and autonomy of sex work cannot be achieved while stepping on other people’s backs to get there and ignoring the realities of workers who aren’t white/high class/able-bodied/cis-gendered.  I mean, have we learned nothing from the mainstream feminist movement who continue to do this???

But apparently I DO need to tell you one more time – we’ve got problems. And for once in your life I need you to take ownership of this. Please don’t try and hush me up or walk away because I’m airing our dirty laundry in front of all these people, and OMG we might not appear “unified” to them!!! Cut the crap and let’s be real. I need to say this because I actually am interested in building a stronger movement – no wait – A WAY OF LIFE – for the future generations I’m concerned about.

So here I go defying the anti-oppression 101 law of me not having to be the educator and I’m going to share some learnings from the school of real life about what isn’t working in your attempts to fix our relationship:

-When you try to “include” Indigenous, racialized, and pretty much anyone that isn’t white, able-bodied, high class, or cis-gendered after the fact of whatever you are trying to do – it doesn’t work. It also doesn’t work when you say things like “it’s only about classism – not racism”. Oh and FYI being gay doesn’t magically make you NOT transphobic.

-Telling me you respect me, that you are an ally and want to be in solidarity with me without knowing how much of a huge responsibility that is or without even asking if I want your allyship in the first place – doesn’t work

-When you declare “whore power” without recognizing how many sex workers can’t relate to that for their own reasons – it doesn’t work

-Giving me advice on what “I” ought to do if “you” were in my place instead of using your own power and privilege to do it your own damn self and fixing shit in your own community that continues to oppress my community – doesn’t work

-Refusing to come to terms with the fact that young people ARE sex working and deserve just as much support and rights as anyone “over 18” even though you are all kinds of uncomfortable with this – doesn’t work

-Saying that you know about the history of colonialism and oh aren’t you so skilled in knowing that it still exists – and then not understanding how a lot of what you are doing in sex work organizing is re-colonizing over and over again in itself – doesn’t work. I wish I had the time and privilege to go through all your good intentions – but I don’t. So stop telling me what to do.

And this is just what I have time to say right now. Take my words seriously and sit with them. I don’t have to keep swallowing the pill of “understanding” why things so prolifically remain this way. I have to be interested in protecting myself against these types of bad things you have inflicted on me because I don’t want to leave you. And even though you say things like you “appreciate” how loud I am – it isn’t helping our situation at all. I’m telling you I’M EXHAUSTED OF ALWAYS HAVING TO BE THIS WAY. I still don’t feel represented and I don’t need your hierarchical pat on the back of “don’t worry, we’re getting there”.

How about we just call things for what they are? I’ve been telling you for a while now that these White, western notions of polite discourse aren’t the norm for all of us. Being honest with the truth about our relationship helps keep my fire alive to change it, and it also might help us to not forget where we’ve really come from and where we’re really going.

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Edited: October 1st, 2010

Building Sexual Consent from the Ground Up: workshop in Toronto June 12

Co-conspirator Juliet November and I will be co-facilitating a workshop called Building Sexual Consent From the Ground Up on Saturday June 12, 2-4 pm as part of the Trigger Festival in Toronto. You should come! It’s free, accessible and childcare is provided all day. Rad! (More info on Trigger and the day-long workshops being offered.)

Juliet and I are doing this workshop for a couple of reasons. First because both of us have been really affected by violence within the queer community. I am sure you have too, either as a survivor as the friend of one. From times we’ve listened to our friends work through the shame and self-hatred of a drunken encounter that wasn’t entirely consensual, to not feeling like we could say No to sex with a partner indefinitely, to having nowhere to turn to get protection from a violent partner because they’d risk deportation. Don’t we love each other enough to do something about this?

Second because we believe in developing non-state community responses to this violence. We believe in taking care of each other, reducing violence and holding people who’ve caused harm accountable–without inviting in the racist, homophobic, capitalist, sexist, ableist police or social services, for example. Our foundational vision is one where queers and trans people rely on each other–not state systems of control, containment and exploitation–to develop solutions to the problem of violence, understanding that violence as part of, and intimately connected to state and international violence.

Third, we are sex workers and know that our skills and strategies around establishing consent (individually, collectively, verbally, non-verbally) are diverse and fierce. We want to share them with our community!
Building Sexual Consent from the Ground Up

Learn from skilled sex workers how to better negotiate sexual consent and make great sex happen. This no-touch workshop will provide an opportunity for participants to gain practical skills in negotiating sex and help us uncover our individual and collective strengths and styles around sexual negotiation. We will talk about how to get the love, sex and intimacy we want, resist stigmas against sex and whores and how to end partner/date violence in our communities! All are welcome!

Saturday June 12, 2010 / 2-4 PM / The Raging Spoon, 761 Queen st West (near Bathurst) / Free!

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Edited: June 7th, 2010

Organizing beyond Facebook against violence to sex workers

The last few weeks have been full of rage and mobilization for sex workers, as a group called “Kill Your Hooker so You Don’t Have to Pay Her” appeared a few weeks back and was quickly gaining members.The group has since been taken down, as somebody tells somebody tells somebody to report the site as offensive and eventually it was taken down. It feels good to have this small victory, but there are many many more similar sites. This kind of whore hatred is everywhere on the internet. One of my clients was once showing me a t-shirt online he wanted to buy that said “I Love My Hooker” but when he searched the apparel company’s website using the search terms “t-shirt” and “hooker” all this awful stuff came up as I watched in horror: Good hookers are dead hookers; Nobody plans to kill a hooker in their hotel room; Dirty Hookers Fishing Team You’ll definitely catch something (and that’s a real sport fishing business, grrr); etc etc I won’t go on. Can you imagine what other group of people you can openly joke about killing? Whose bodies are considered so worthless and not human? Well I can think of a few: people with disabilities, aboriginal women, transpeople… sadly I can think of all sorts of sites and jokes that make light of violence against us and others. I want to make a stand against these overt expressions of violence and the deaths they produce. But we gotta remember that violence against sex workers is not just about “stranger danger” – ie evil and random frat boys joking about our deaths online, or phantom mystery clients who chop us up. Sex workers face intimate partner violence (which has more ramifications if you are used to police violence and criminalization of your work, especially for people of colour), spiritual and psychic violence generated by whorephobia (since we often have to hide our work and we don’t have access to our histories of survival under colonialization, especially for Aboriginal people), state violence at the hands of government, police and the medical establishment, and I could go on and on. But I will save that for a later post on unpacking our ideas about risk for sex workers (but you could start with this amazing piece It’s You I’m Afraid Of by Juliet November.)

It did all feel a bit weird, though, to have everyone in my community mobilizing to send complaints to Facebook. Usually I am getting angry messages about the way that Facebook is censoring breast feeding photos, or gender pronoun options, or sex positive groups, or queer performances, etc. I guess that’s the old chestnut of freedom of speech. How do we want that right served up? Well, the learning and work I have been doing recently about advocating for decriminalization over legalization and regulation, as well as the reading and thinking I have been doing about the Prison Industrial Complex, including the inefficacy of police and state responses to violence in my community is directing me to question, more and more, the amount of time and energy I spend convincing the capitalist and governmental powers that be to hear me, or represent me, or provide services to me. All those things are important, no doubt. But I’m dreaming about other responses that build the sex worker community, that fortify us and that speak to our differences across race, class, gender, and ability, that make it possible for us to confront and transform violence in our lives.

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Edited: February 16th, 2010